Look around you. You see homelessness, mental sickness, addiction, sexual perversion, suicide, depression, crime, anger, apathy, and the list goes on. Some problems that you see are no respecter of status, financial standing, religious belief, gender, age, and nationality. It happens in the corporate setting, government, schools, communities, and basically everywhere.
What is going on?
The problems that we see are simply manifestations of deeper issues that are not dealt with. Until these issues are resolved, the problems will not only continue to happen but will escalate. Even the ones who appear all put together on the outside but have unresolved issues will sooner or later give in.
Most solutions that are presented are simply band-aid solutions that look good, but don't last.
One community for instance built small houses to accommodate homeless people in their area. In just a short time, neighbors started complaining of noise, fights, and rowdiness among these people who the community provided homes for. The solution was good but it did not solve the deeper problem.
Another example is a company whose people needed motivation. They hired a consultant to give them an empowering talk. The people got fired up! They were highly motivated after the conference. It lasted for two weeks, and they were back again in their old slump.
What about a lady who needed some confidence booster? She hired a coach and was very encouraged. Two months later and she was back to her depression.
It is so easy to offer and receive quick-fixes because nobody wants to deal with deep-seated issues. The problem is, people do not understand that covering up the deep-seated issues only prolongs the problem.
Why do people avoid resolving issues?
First, most people think that this is the job of a psychiatrist or psycho-therapist. This is far from the truth! In fact, the more clinical it gets, the more impersonal it becomes. And healing from deep-seated issues require a more personal approach that entails trust.
Next, most people do not even have a clue that they have unresolved issues. Some have buried it so deep, others do not want to think about it, and there are those who simply don't believe in it.
Third, there are very few people who know how to facilitate this process. How can one effectively teach or help someone with something he or she has not been through?
Resolving issues is a process that, when done correctly, and when the person surrenders to the process, can take shorter than other band-aid solutions or traditional means. It works like a band-aid. Taking it off can be painful, more so if the band-aid has been there for a long time. Yet, when the person is willing to endure the pain, the removal can be pretty quick. Once that band-aid is removed, the person will be able to see how bad the wound is. Then, true healing can begin. This healing is what brings about real change that lasts.